Energy Leadership

2010 “None of us is promised tomorrow”

As I write this I am reminded that each of our lives is like vapor, it appears for a little while and then vanishes away. What is motivating you this year?

In December 2009, I was on my MasterMind call and we were all talking about our plans and motivations for 2010. As we talked our fearless leader came up with a list of the items that we had just laid out for the New Year. I began to rewrite my notes in the dark of night and I saw a beautiful way to incorporate some of those ideas here for you. Read them and decide for yourself where you are headed in 2010.

1. Be Grateful
2. Maintain a positive attitude
3. Give
4. Terrific!
5. Sit on a rock
6. The gift that costs nothing
7. Cut the Noise, Drama & Distraction
8. Sit in Silence
9. Listen twice as much as you talk
10. Say Thank-you
11. Find C-A-L-M
12. One Minute times two
13. Small Steps
14. Sleep On It

Are you still with me? I would love to give you a brief insight into each one of these items because I know they will lift you up and will give you pause to rethink what you are currently doing and where you are going with a “full steam ahead” mentality. I would like to challenge that and take down a different track.

Be Grateful Look around where you are currently sitting; name everything within sight that you currently have. I challenge you to each day to just keep a running list of “3” things that you are grateful for.

Maintain a positive attitude What do you get from seeing life from the negative side? Seeing things in the positive looks a whole lot better than always seeing what’s wrong. I challenge you to change your negativity to positivity.

Give Have you ever been in a line and you got a nudge to pay for the person in front of you or behind you? I urge you to just do it and do not stop and think about why, or guilt or anything else, just do it. When others are struggling you can often see it right in front of your eyes, but we tend to see past them. I challenge you to give and give more freely and more abundantly.

Terrific! Many of us come “preprogrammed” to “FIX-IT”. So in order to use this gift and strength more, I would like to challenge you to the following; the next time you are about to get “engaged” in a heated battle of the “problem”, turn it around and yell “TERRIFIC!”. We are here to solve problems, let’s get started!

Sit on a rock Our lives are filled with going, going, going; so go already, but take only your suitcase and a blank pad and pen. Take a ride on a train a couple of hours one way and then come back. Let the sound of the train and the scenery outside the window carry your thoughts and empty your mind and see what you write down on the way home.

The gift that costs nothing Give yourself a gift everyday. Step outside and drink in the sights, the sounds and the weather. The gift of swaying trees in the breeze, the gift of birds singing and flying through the air, children laughing, a beautiful flower, the rain, the glistening snow, the sound of the surf. These are free and all around us, receive them.

Cut the Noise, Drama, & Distraction These three are some of the biggest stressors and energy drainers known to humans. Turn off the news, get a new circle of friends that are positive, you are no better or worse than any of those you know, and stop running to and fro from unpleasantness. Face these head on and plow through.

Sit in Silence I challenge you to go to a chair and sit there in utter silence for 5 minutes. Set a timer, turn off everything, close your eyes and sit there. Do this every day. Then increase your time in the chair. Hey, falling asleep is OK! Your body is telling you something. Put the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth to center yourself and to concentrate.

Listen twice as much as you talk There is an old saying that we have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Why is this an important change in your life this year? Your answers will be twice as wise when you actually hear what is being said and you think before you answer. I challenge you to really listen.

Say Thank-you We sometimes do this without thinking about what we are doing; it’s like the trite sayings of the 70’s “Have a nice day”….. When you are about to say these very precious words – STOP – look the person in the eyes and extend your hand and then say Thank-you. Then look at the reaction of the person. Let go of the person’s hand when they let go. How do you feel now?

Find C-A-L-M This is different than your other two challenges. Have you ever felt out of control inside and maybe even your hand is slightly trembling? That is being out of control and trying to do too many things. Again I challenge you to close your eyes and focus on just doing that one thing and then proceed calmly to the next, focus, complete and then move on.

One Minute times two In 2009 I gave myself a personal challenge to read in several books that are personally important to me each and every day for a certain amount of time. I would give myself an 85% on maintaining that wonderful routine. Here’s a challenge for you; each day read just 1 minute in an inspirational book ( this could be the Holy book of your faith, or a book of inspiration) and then read 1 minute in a text of your chosen field (not on the internet…this leads to surfing and distraction). Disconnect and sit down and read. Before you know it, you may be up to 30+ minutes!

Small Steps Look back over this past year and think of the times when you felt that you were “behind” or “off track”; got it? This is a true sign of biting off too big a piece of the whole. Step back and take a smaller bite. If you are still in the same place….step back again and take a smaller step. Once you get to the point that you are succeeding; you are at the right pace for your time, and talent.

Sleep On It I am a big believer in saying “NO” when I am not equipted to say “YES”. Recently, I was awakened to a new possibility. When you are asked to take on something or to do something, instead of jumping right in with your answer; try this: say: “….Thanks so much for asking. Let me sleep on it and I will get back to you….” So, you get off the hook in the moment. Sleep on it for a day or two or more if it is a big request, but do get back to the person or organization. When you do this even your “NO” will be received in a different manner.

I am grateful to know each and every one of you that reads this peice. My prayer for you in 2010 is that where ever your path leads that you are blessed, that you give thanks for everything that you have and comes your way, that you would lift up and support others who do not have your gifts, time and talent.

Life is good and God has showered blessing down upon me, my husband and our family this past year. We are blessed.

“BE”,

Janice Bastani

Why do things always seem to take so long, when I am waiting for an answer to my question? What I suspect is happening with you and me and everyone else is that we expend a great deal of our available energy to move ourselves, our relationships and our businesses forward, waiting for something to happen.

What would happen if we took that fretting energy and turn it to fuel a big project or start a new idea, or come to a meeting with renewed vigor? Time would pass and the answer would be there waiting for you when you came back to the fretting again.

When we put our minds to work on something constructive the time passes very fast. It is like the skills one learns in cognitive behavior. When we go to our default mode (fretting/worrying etc) we loose valuable time, and energy. When we fill the waiting space with a purposeful, forward moving activity, then the void is filled and we no longer dwell in the negative.

Make sense?

So why do we fret or become anxious and sometimes down right angry at the prospect of the wait and the outcome?

I have narrowed it down to 5 reasons and they are listed below with an explaination.

1 We are not asking the right question. We often want to get the answer that we want, so we construct the question in order to get the answer that we want. Which winds up being very empty. Because it is not a true answer.

2. We are not in the proper mindset. What this means is that we are in our own head trash, saboteur, negative self tape playing mode.

3. The answer may be "NO" and you have rejected this answer. When we start out with a mindset that we will not accept a NO as an answer, then all that follows is failure. We go round and round. We begin to meddle, manipulate, restate and so on, which eventually causes all sorts of other havoc in other areas of our lives. This impacts our personal lives and our professional lives.

4. The answer may be "WAIT", and you are unwilling to wait. Well now we have become a two year old again in in tantrum mode. WAIT is not a death sentence. It simply means that all the stars are not aligned just yet.

5. You are not ready to handle "YES". Are you kidding me, you may say. Yes, I can handle YES! Well sometimes you are not ready. Here's the reason behiind this answer. You may need to mature in order to have expereinced certain things in order to get to the place of YES. You may be in the wrong environment, it may be the wrong time, the wrong place, other lessons need refining or to be learned first or they may need to be taught.

Just because you want it, doesn't mean it is good for you or right for you. A parent doesn't give the car keys to an angry 10 year old who wants to run away from home. He is not ready to drive, he is angry, he has some maturing to do, and so on. It may seem simplistic, but it is the same analogy.

Think about the possibilities behind the answer you are seeking first, before you have a reaction.