Energy Leadership Blog

Do you remember the first time you purchased something in the genre of "Self-Help"? I sure do and I still actually have that book in my library. Do you know that the content is still valid today some 40 years later!? Now that's a book that can stand the test of time!

What was going on in your life where you thought....hum....I have no clue how to accomplish that...I need some help...."? Today, you can quickly go to the internet, but the 100% probability that you will become distracted and be all over the place and forget what you were orginally there for is huge!

This type of activity can be very negative and over whelm is sure to set in. In Energy coaching, we call that "Catabolic". We call it that because this does not move you forward. Moving forward is what you are looking for and the coach is looking for.

A coach is a person who is in the business of lifting up other people and pointing them through questions to the path that they are looking for. The client (we coaches have found out) is very smart and they need just a little probing in order to find that answer or direction that they were searching for in the self-help industry.

Here's what I am talking about. Let's use me and my first experience. I was a newlywed and suddenly the lovely diamond ring came with a truck load of responsibility that although it was lofty and seemed wonderful was actually daunting. I suddenly had, a home, all his stuff, all of my stuff, a job, his job, our cars, meals, laundry, bills, habits, gifts (the good, the bad and the downright ugly) to deal with, and all of the other mirad of things that go with combining two lives and two households.

I need "ORGANIZATION" help. A book has to be read and digested and then tasks need to be done. In coaching the coach is your helper so to speak. The coach helps you break down the mountain and prioritize the what gets done first and then the second thing, then the third thing and so on. Along with that breakdown and prioritizing comes encouragement, venting, feelings expressed, congratulations and a partner to walk up that mountain until it is just a small bump in the road.

Stress disappears when you share it with someone who is not emotionally attached to the outcome of the project at hand.

What is you mountain?
Who is your coach?
If you are interested in exploring what engaging a coach is like; I would be happy to speak with you at no charge.
Your mountain isn't going away anytime soon.
It's only a phone call....you have no obligation what so ever.
Call me: 908-696-9047.

You probably didn't notice, however you now have only 51 weeks left in 2010 to "DO IT".

What is that for you?

Did you ever notice that somewhere around December 30th or 31st, you just pack it all in and mentally throw in the towel, because you know....Time Is Up?

Or perhaps you recite that famous line from the Christmas Poem..."...settled down for a long winter's nap..."?

The next time you open your eyes it is a fresh, clean, sparkling, new, year and anything is possible. It is possible until you put your feet on the floor next to your bed that is.

If you are a person who really buys in to the whole "resolutions" idea then get out or take down your list. Look at it and see how you did in week 52.

If you think about it these resolutions are much like a 52 week marketing calendar in a business. You start out with a big piture plan. You know, your idea of what it is that you want. I know you did do that part this past 9 days.

Next you take the number ONE item on your list and you break it down into 52 easy bite sized steps that are doable and spread them out over 52 weeks. Now if you are pushing back about this one thing, guess what....you are in a negative living mental space.

If you say..."that's way too long, I don't need 52 weeks to do that!" I challenge you to drag the steps out anyway and do not skip a week.

Now when it is December 30th or 31st of 2010.....pull down your list and just see if you actually did accomplish the number 1 items on your list. That would be a totally ANABOLIC - POSITIVE 2010!

You see 99% of all of us that make resolutions never get to week 49 (for those of you who don't know when that is....it is January 31st).

If you feel extra ambitious you can do this say thing with all of the items on your list. A word of warning here....you will quickly become overwhelmed and toss the whole thing out! That would be a CATABOLIC - NEGATIVE thing and you are right back where you were on December 30th or 31st 2009.

Long ago, I must admit I gave up the notion of having New Years Resolutions as a kid. Somehow it seems false and so fake to pretend that I was going to; read more, study harder, get on the cheerleading squad, make the basketball team or have that perfect dress for the prom. They all seems false and truly out of reach.

So, what I have come to terms with is just moving 1 to 10 degrees closer to the kind of person I want to be.

You may ask, what does that mean?

It simply means this:

I try to listen more than I talk.
I actively try to put myself in the other person's shoes/walk and see things from their perspective
I develop my own intellect by reading the things that I love to read on the topics that intrigue me
I am grateful for all of the opportunities and things that I do have
I talk to God every day
I help others as much as they will allow me to help
I speak the love language of those that I love and care about and those who are my clients
I am at peace about who I am in this world and the part that I play in it.

These 8 things are not earth shattering by any strech of the imagination nor are they the same for any other person on earth. They are however, doable every single day and all 52 weeks of my year. Each of us is in a different season in our lives, and what we see through those seasons of experience has so much wisdom which is been painfully and joyfully learned that we can pass that wisdom along through our actions and our words when we intereact with others.

What about you?